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The people bait film we have around us say "so so", run by the paper and trying to say something that can get it "to go over". My dear father is a classic example. He is trying to make people laugh by saying something funny. My mother kept quiet and begins to talk about themselves and something she had once experienced something like that is a little out of context ...:-)
The therapeutic relationship is different. Here it is not my role to be "nice" and get my clients to stop crying. Here I know that the crying has a healene effect and that crying is a way down into something deeper.
It happens that I get tears in my eyes, that I am so affected by their work and they tell that I can not hide my tears. As yesterday, when I worked with a man who has seen everything there to be experienced. And yet choose to come into therapy, share it, looking at his histroie and have the courage bait film to do something different than the person comes from. It affected me deeply bait film that I was admitted.
"When you tell me what you do I can feel I am enormously sad" ... And that's the problem about it is that you order as a therapist puts himself quite game much in the center and there is a great risk that the client does not feel heard, and maybe even get his "helper gene" is activated and goes away from therapy with thoughts like:
Better bait film to ask how it was to cry in my presence. And the parts that therapists also are concerned ... .My old supervisor said it looked fine "It's good there are waterproof mascara" when the session ended.
That happens exactly what you tell in the end ... That you do not say more .. A gentalgelse of what may have happened in the family that has been crossed some unspoken concept and made mom or dad upset by itself to be sorry ... It's just not redeeming .. at all, and focus is removed from the original emotional and experience, this relates to ..
How nice to read your blog, your dedication bait film as a therapist and special to me your posts on Children and Youth, an area that touch me deep in the heart. Your post today has put thoughts and feelings in time with me, you write about a "trend" among therapists and if it is as you describe? Yes I understand you well. It's just a little too black / white for me, as seen in relation to myself, have been lucky enough to meet therapists who "dared" to face up to the contact to me and "show" themselves by their daring mirrors me that the stories I have been told from my own life, and I for all to survive have done everything possible not to feel, yes it has affected them, evoked tears, my experience has been that they dare cry the tears that I myself not dare, would or? but slowly brings it to anyone dare "show" found me unable to feel my own vulnerability, discover that I have been exposed to fucking was not in order and that it makes / has made me sad !! And slowly, I ventured, let a tear roll, it has been a huge ophealing for me. You write for me to read about shame? "I must ifvertfald not need to tell more about the case now that I have done my therapist sad". It is for me to read of shame importance, a turning point in therapy where the wake therapist supports, helps the client to acknowledge the shame. For what it's dangerous to make Mom and Dad sad? That is the reality we are going to hurt our loved ones, do our children, lovers etc. sad !!! The shame is that one may not be who you are and if you find that you are not the one your father, mother or partner wants you to be, the therapist can not give you a medication that makes your father, mother's or partner's wishes. The trick here is to identify with it shameful. When I stand by what I am - not despite, but as a finding - I discover that he does not have the power to be the executioner. It is not necessary to be good enough; itself to be sufficient to be alive. For typical for me to get the client to the therapist to get a stronger dose of the same "means" against guilt, shame and inferiority which he or she had previously attempted to use. The client typically come to learn to be "good enough". But any attempt to meet the desire to remove the guilt and shame non-paradoxical will just be another version of the above fit that is by beating the client to death. Statements like "it's not your fault" or "you do not have to be ashamed of" will usually - not always, but usually - just double the guilt and shame, so the client bait film is guilty of "clinging to his guilt" and comes to be ashamed not to "make up with his introjekter". And for me personally, it is totally uninteresting to consider what it was like to cry in front of the therapist, or it might make me feel right ska